My girlfriend has been a vegetarian almost her entire life, by her own decision, and I think she makes really poor diet choices, but I don’t want to say that to her and have her get upset with me (it’s happened already).
I’m a vegan, I’m a twig but I’m not a very picky eater. I eat quite a bit, sometimes I forget to eat though, and I really don’t get much exercise (I sit around way too much, I know it’s bad).
When my girlfriend was a vegan for a year, she said that she didn’t lose any weight, leading me to believe that she makes really poor diet choices. Her financial situation isn’t very good, but neither is mine, however I feel like my dad is more supportive than her mom is. (Also, her mom smokes unfortunately, and if she didn’t, I bet my girlfriend would be healthier because they would have extra money (her mom only smokes outside))
Here is the other thing, she has anxiety and bipolar disorder, very badly. Super low self-esteem. It’s very hard to encourage her to exercise anymore, she won’t go for a walk, and whenever we hang out she gets upset/angry when I bring up exercising.
She’s gained about 30 pounds since we’ve been together, as her anxiety has gotten the better of her, and unfortunately she doesn’t do much other than sit around her house and eat all day :/
It really kills me to watch her fall apart when we finally get to go out somewhere and she’s all upset because she thinks she looks huge/doesn’t have anything that fits. I love her regardless of what she looks like, but I want her to love herself, this seems to be a very hard thing for her to do. It’s almost as if she doesn’t want to.
Her diet seems to consist of a lot of cheese, ice cream and pasta. I had gotten upset with her once for eating cheese (because of what her and I both believe in, but only I currently practice) and that did not go well at all. So getting her to kick the dairy habit is going to be tough. At least she doesn’t like soda.
I feel like if I could help her figure out a diet that her mom can afford, that she would actually eat, her anxiety and bipolar disorder would lighten up a bit. She really is a great person who has been dealt a bad hand one too many times, and I want her to be happy so badly.
So please, if you have any ideas at all, they are very much appreciated. Thank you!
I forgot to mention that she uses food as a security blanket, which she knows isn’t good, but she just feels like she can’t do anything about it so she doesn’t try.
I know that it’s her choice, but it’s a hypocritical choice of her because she is against dairy. But she eats it without a second thought it seems. And this is why I get upset :/ Thanks for the eastern food suggestion :] I know she really enjoys curry (so do I!), I will have to look into this.
P.S. I know that the food is her security blanket, it used to be mine at one point (I quit being veg and gained ten pounds). It is by no means healthy to eat when you’re bored/upset.